Its OK to ask for help, ladies…

Sorry I’ve been quiet.  My family was in the process of moving.  And we moved into a lovely 3 bedroom, 2 full bath house in Olde Town East.  Everything was going great until I pulled a big muscle in my back that has me on bed rest for the next few days.  Now I know what you must be thinking…”why would you move those heavy boxes pregnant?”  well, my theory is that If you want something done right, you gotta do it yourself.  For obvious reasons, I was wrong.

I think that this is the one time in a women’s life that it is o.k. to be lazy.  We are growing a living human child in our womb and we are their sanctuary.  We need to do whats best for our child during the next 40 weeks.  If that means putting our feet up from time to time then do it.  No one is going to call you lazy, and if they do then who the hell cares.  You are doing whats good for you, and you’re child.

This is the time you lean on your friends, family and significant others for help.  That’s what they are there for.  Believe it or not.  If you are moving like I was, hire movers.  Trust me, next time we definitely will.  It may cost you money but its better to spend a bit then get hurt in the attempt.  In the meantime, relax and put your feet up and enjoy the process (after you are done puking your guts out and finally get your energy back).

Some things you can/should do while pregnant to make sure you are happy and relaxed are as follows:

  • Go get a prenatal massage.  I went to Massage Envy in Grandview, OH and it was the best hour of my life.  Definitely recommend getting at least one massage per pregnancy.  (It only cost $55 if its your first time!)
  • Treat yo feet.  You better get some pedicures while your pregnant.  Especially if you are like me and are pregnant during the summer.  Don’t matter how swollen your feet are, they still deserve to look pretty.
  • Get your hair did!!! You have lovely, thick hair growing right now thanks to all those extra hormones and prenatal vitamins.  You better get a trim here and there and look FABULOUS!!! I see my girl miss Hair Davinci every chance I get.  Sometimes a fresh hair cut can make you fee amazing.
  • GO SHOPPING.  I’m the type of person who will think twice about buying myself a new outfit but will drop some major dollars on my child.  So go shop for your child.  If you want it, buy it.  And buy all of it.  Even if your spouse says no, buy it anyways.  Then cry, so he doesn’t get mad.  I do it all the time, sorry Matt.
  • If you want to eat it, then eat it.  You know the saying “happy life, happy wife” well “a happy preggo is a well fed preggo.”  So if I want to eat that slice of cake well shit pass me that extra slice.  If I wanna go pick up an ice cream cake from the grocery store well then get a fork and eat with me.  Don’t tell me no “You know you don’t HAVE to eat for two literally” and you don’t HAVE TO be up in my food.  I have an excuse to eat a little extra at the dinner table, whats your excuse?  (Insert judgmental head tilt…currently eating Papa Johns pizza for breakfast.  No fucks given.)
  • Binge watch Netflix…all the shows…in one sitting.   While you are sitting on your “lazy ass” on the couch, watch you a good show and laugh, cry, scream and shout.  And don’t feel guilty.  (I literally watched ’13 reasons why’ in 2 days…thanks bed rest)

Okay, that is all I have for this post.  I promise to keep up to date more often.  What are some things you like to do to be relaxed while pregnant???





What to expect when you’re expecting and the things you never expected you had to expect. 

Congrats!!!! You are pregnant 🙂

Its the most exciting time in your life and you want to scream it from the top of your lungs!!!  But if you are me when I was pregnant with my first, you probably went out and purchased all the “what to expect…” baby books and have a board on Pinterest about this exciting journey.  But just like me, there are things that your OB or those books don’t tell you that I wish they would’ve known about being pregnant.

Every pregnancy is different and this post isn’t meant to scare you.  But its to inform you how different everyone’s pregnancy can be and to give you a heads up on what you may expect that you NEVER thought you would.

1- Saliva….So Much Saliva

When I hit around 11-12 weeks with my daughter, I noticed that i had a lot of saliva in my mouth.  If I were to swallow it, it would make me vomit.  The only choice I had was to spit it out into a bottle that I have since named “Spitz”  The saliva lasted until AFTER I DELIVERED.  Note the frustration in my voice right now.  So optimistically with my second pregnancy I prayed that this issue didn’t happen again.  But of course, it did.  This time it hit me around 6 weeks.  6 WEEKS?!?!?!?!  Why??? Not everyone knew I was pregnant and now I have to walk around with a spit bottle.  Everyone at work thought I was chewing tobacco (and I work in a tobacco free work space).  I had to then explain to everyone that I’m not chewing tobacco and that I was actually pregnant and this was a symptom.  The look everyone gave me was like they didn’t believe me.  Like, why would I lie about this?? Think about it and google it.  Even my OB confirmed that when you have your second kid so close to your first, any symptoms you had previously come back cause your body remembers what happened last time.  No idea why it hit me and not other people I know.  Maybe its cause i’m black.  Like seriously!  The only people that I know who have dealt with it were African American women.  UGH. Thanks kids.

2- Always hungry or Nauseous…No in between

The first trimester for me was TORTURE.  Couldn’t eat anything but watermelon with my daughter and clementines with my second (its a boy BTW) .  Nothing sounded good until week 8 and then I didn’t know what I wanted.  But I know I wanted something.  Cant eat fast food (even now, i’m 17 weeks pregnant and the thought of a burger from McDonald’s makes me want to go vomit), loved green beans for a whole week straight but now the thought of it is not appetizing.  Its like you cant win.  Your either hungry or vomiting.  That’s how I was at least.  Then I have those friends that can go through their entire pregnancy and eat whatever they want and feel fabulous.  I hate you ladies. No offense.  Nothing personal, strictly jealously.

3-  Breast sensitivity and VEINS

My boobs look like an old school globe.  So many veins.  I could probably point out where the United States is on my boobs.  And to add to that, they get so sore and BIG.  Like my bra’s do not fit.  I even added an extender and that’s not enough.  I’m like a wide load over here.  So frustrating. I know i need to buy a new bra but I really don’t want to spend the money now just to have to buy one in a few weeks.  Guess i’m going to be letting the girls hang loose!

4- Migraines

Migraines are the worst when you are not pregnant but add a baby in your belly and you have a migraine its even worst.  Why?  Cause majority of the medicine that you can take for a regular migraine you cant take when you are pregnant.  Migraines can knock me on my ass for days and I just need to lay in the dark on the cold floor and keep the sunshine out.  When I get a migraine now I want to cry cause usually I could pop a Excedrin Migraine but now i’m S.O.L.  Luckily for me I can take a Tylenol and be o.k. but I do have a few friends that have had it so bad that they have to go to the ER to get an IV for meds.  Just remember to keep hydrated and that should limit the amount of headaches/migraines you have.  Some of them are unavoidable unfortunately, just keep your OB in the loop for the best treatment options.

5- Who’s Tired?!?!  Me, always Me.

Growing a child is EXHAUSTING.  Like if I could just sleep all day, I would.  I remember calling my husband from work crying cause all I wanted to do was sleep and I had hit my caffeine intake limit for the day.  If I would’ve known how EXHAUSTING it is to grow a baby I would’ve slept way more before I got pregnant.  Hey, at least my husband is getting a lot of sleep, right?!?!  That was COMPLETE SARCASM.  (insert eye roll emoji here).  And speaking of exhaustion, when you do get up, you get so dizzy from getting up so fast you have to sit back down.  You cant win.  Thanks kids, you’re amazing.

I could go on and on AND ON but i’ll stop there for today, here are some other AMAZING symptoms to look forward to in the first trimester:

Nasal Congestion (never had it personally, but my friend has and its TERRIBLE)

Cramps (you think these are bad, wait until round ligament pains happen)

Swelling (you blow up like a blimp)

Sciatic Nerve Pain (leg pain is the WORST)

Indigestion/Heart burn (dis is too much)

Sweating (I sweat everyone….even DOWN THERE)

Doubled blood flow (brush your teeth, insert blood, and minor freak out)

Constipation (I don’t always have to poop, but when I do its every 5 days and its the size of a skittle)

If you experience any other symptoms that you NEVER expected you would have to deal with during pregnancy, let me know your struggle so you don’t have to struggle alone.




Finally doing this blog thing

Hey everyone,

Thanks for stopping by.  I have been asked to do a blog for YEARS and I have finally got around to starting one.  This first post wont be of anything real important but be prepared to hear the real and the unfiltered side of me.  I’m going to tell it how it is from being pregnant for a 2nd time, raising a toddler, moving into a bigger and better place AND creating a collection for Alternative fashion week ALL AT THE SAME TIME.  I know, i’m probably overdoing it and will probably get super stressed but i’ll be sure to tell you all about it in the days/weeks to come!!!


Talk to you soon!